njcg.1054, I am praying for you
Dear Father God and Lord Jesus, I lift up Njcg's youngest daughter to you for your guidance and direction. Please give her a godly perspective and grant her wisdom. I ask that you give her the courage to end the relationship on good terms. May she and the family draw closer to you and Lord Jesus. Let them pray daily together for your grace, mercy, and divine interventions. The daughter can meditate on Psalm 32:8, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you." May all go well for her. In Jesus's name, I pray.
njcg.1054, I am praying for your daughter. One thing that helped me to let go of a boyfriend I had a trauma bond with (he was a narcissist and I was getting very depressed due to the abuse, but couldn’t let go because I thought God could change him if I prayed hard enough) I met another woman who was also in an abusive relationship and I saw that he was beginning to abuse their children. I always thought I was strong enough to handle the abuse. But when I realized he would do the same thing to my future children, that’s when I began to look at it differently. That was one of the many things and people I had to come in contact with over much time to finally be able to let go and give up. My mom told me that God could change him but that he had to want to also since we have free will. That also helped me see it more clearly. And I had to learn about being abused and narcissistic people and go through a denial process before I could accept that I was being abused. I made excuses for him because I loved him too much to believe he was abusing me. Finally I saw it for what it was. I will be praying. I have lived this struggle. I would be happy to talk to your daughter if she wants to hear from someone who’s been through some bad relationships. My last ex I caught cheating on me with a video in his phone and found out he hid a marriage from me too. I’ve lived through heck and back. Rebuilt myself twice after bad men demolished my life. Godlygal321 at gmail is my email if she wants advice. I am a teacher so I talk to kids all the time. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through it too, my mom and I struggled a lot when I was in bad relationships. Try not to be too vocal about her getting out, it can drive a wedge in your relationship with her if she doesn’t feel supported. The rose colored glasses can’t see what outsiders can see and it’s very hard. Step carefully and show love and support and a listening ear. Condemn behavior you see, not the person. That might help. Ask her what advice would she give her best friend if she was in the same situation. Remind her to love herself as much as she loves him. Remind her that we are called to protect our own hearts. I wish her and you the best!