Dear Cg1buckeye, I pray that you and Jay will have a loving friendship. It's possible that Jay might think that you're trying to keep tabs on him, similar to what parents and spouses do. Also, some people are turned off when you ask probing questions. They feel as though they're being cross examined. It might be a good idea to ask general questions, such as "How was your weekend?" or "How was your week?" Let the person fill in the blanks, if the person wants to. Let people tell you what they want and leave it at that. Move on to another subject. If Jay or anyone else is doing something that you think they aren't sharing with you, let it go. It's their business. Don't ask. Let them volunteer it. It's a judgment call. I encourage you to pray for wisdom and discernment. I hope this helps you. I wish you and Jay all the best. In Jesus's name, I pray.
cg1buckeye, I am praying for God to bring Unity between you and your friend Jay. I'm praying for forgiveness, understanding and complete healing in the relationship.
cg1buckeye, I am praying for you